I really REALLY dislike Dan Savage's "advice" column. Most of you have probably heard of him...he's a "sex expert" type dude, like Violet Blue but in dude form. The people who pretend to be the lords of sex and write columns about how to please your ____ (fill in the blank)
This dude just annoys me because people think since he's gay, he can't be misogynistic with his advice. A local newspaper in my city, which i love, has him at the end giving sex advice to women. I read them sometimes, but i usually puke in my mouth.
Why?
Well, he likes to encourage sadomasochism, porn culture and general malestream oppression which is woman hating propaganda with a "cool" sticker on it. Gross.

Anyway, what brought him to my attention today was the fact that feministing.com mentioned him. Who is surprised? Feministing is all about fun tymezzz and white priv. empowerment zomg!
I guess I should provide those of you who don't know who this dude is with a little info. Dan Savage is a libertarian. Yes, a libertarian. I Luvz teh capitalizm when it benefits meh!
Ugh. Enough said? No...maybe not.
He's a gay rights activist, that's good and necessary...
But libertarianism isn't really going to help free anyone from any oppression since it works WITH oppressive institutions, on a fucked up economic scale.
Also, i'm pretty much against any dude who supports the pornification of our culture, which contributes to rape culture on a massive scale. So what's my big beef? Well, most pro-exploitation dudes grind my gears. Savage really is quite popular, so obviously his pro-porn, pro-exploitation stance makes it rounds with young women. That pisses me off. Liberal dudes ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS spout liberal dude suck my dick rhetoric to the masses of young women, normalizing phallocentric bullshit.
This is harming women. It may be indirect, but it's still harm. These dudes work closely with the sex industry, as do women like Violet Blue. They help promote the woman hating propaganda, they attempt to justify it and make it totally hip and cool. I mean, if you don't watch pornos with your boyfriend to make him happy, then what kind of woman are you?
Oh, a feminist. that's right.
But it's hard to stand up against the sexual tortures women endure when popular libertarian dudes go off spouting how goddamn cool it is. It makes me fucking sad because there's NEVER an opposition. It's because the media censors radical feminists or anyone who speaks out against capitalist exploitation. Think Dworkin, Craft, Jensen etc...You never see them with fucking advice columns. The libertarian assholes call us "puritans" or "anti-sex" instead of "radical feminists or "egalitarian sex seekers"
seriously...
This is because WHITE DUDES OWN MEDIA. STRAIGHT OR GAY OR ACE OR BI OR TRANS...WHITE DUDES HAVE THE SAY.
And they fucking love to tell women how to behave.
Here's a delightful little bullshit, rage inducing column
Ever since hearing you say on your podcast that all men use porn, I have had a burning question: What about us women? If all men get a pass to have this whole other sex life, which is (mostly) external to their partnerships and is sexually satisfying, then all women should have a pass as well. Ideally, it would be a pass to enjoy something universally arousing to all women, something that would sexually satisfy us, but it wouldn't be something that turns most men on, perhaps it might even repulse them. If there were something that met my criteria, I wonder how it would play out in our relationships? Also, I am not sure what it could be, as women are a little bit more complicated.
Desires Erotic Balance
WHOA WHOA WHOA, he said ALL men? Oh, right. All dudes hate women so ALL dudes much watch porn. What about the Robert Jensen's of the world?
But Oh, men have a pass...or rather a perceived right to access women's bodies at ALL times.
Watch while Savage encourages this couple to watch the woman hating propaganda to fulfill boners and wet dream fantasies. Its their RIGHT, isn't it? It's their RIGHT to a woman's body, a right to getting off on sexual slavery, right?
FUCKING WRONG.
HOLY SHIT HE FUCKING TELLS THEM TO CHECK OUT VIOLET BLUES SADOMACSHISM PORN PAGE.
LOOK!!!
Dan:
We're actually in the middle of a porn-for-women revolution as millions—yes, millions—of women are loudly, even proudly, proclaiming their interest in porn," says Violet Blue, author, blogger, activist, and tireless foe of antiporn boneheads everywhere. If you were reading Blue's blog—www.tinynibbles.com—you would know that one out of every three consumers of internet porn are female, according to a Nielsen NetRatings report released in 2007.
more here
BAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. BONEHEADS.
We're puritan BONEHEADZ!
REVOLUTION. OH IT'S REVOLUTIONARY FOR WOMEN TO HURT OTHER WOMEN NOW, DROP EVERYTHING GALZ! fuck, please comment on this shit.
A revolution for who? Liberal upper class white women? Fucking PLEASE SPARE ME.
I must go before i blow my TOP.
Gay men who promote misogyny really get up my nose - the Carson Cressley types who get a free pass because apparently being a gay man is somewho akin to being an honorary woman, in pop culture. That's why we need them to tell us how to conform to stupid ideals of femininity, they know about that shit much better than we of the dumb lady brainz. Those guys have turned misogyny into a cute cottage industry.
ReplyDeleteI just found your blog btw - great blog title!
Linda Radfem
Greetings Friend. :-) Thanks for posting about this insanity and for continuing to speak up in general about the harms of pornography, the importance of feminism, and other related issues. Your voice is needed!
ReplyDeleteThank yOu :D
ReplyDeleteDan Savage needs to go away. He needs to give up the mic and get off the stage. Now. If he cares at all about non-het community, let him pass the mic to a radical lesbian feminist so he can see how counter-hegemonic personal-political advice is done responsibly, with respect to women and with resistance to all forms of patriarchal sex and ethics.
ReplyDeleteI've toyed with the idea of creating a new youtube channel for radical sex advice. People could write in and I could respond with humor (because I'm funny, lets be honest) and you know, intelligent answers that don't compromise people's rights to bodily integrity and all that.
ReplyDeleteThat would be so awesome dude!!
ReplyDeleteOh BC, it'd be Swellington if you did that! God, puritan boneheads? How mature are these people, really?
ReplyDeleteOkay, so one in three porn users are womyn, but I would be willing to bet bottom dollar on the fact they use it WITH men.
Dan Savage is a disgusting pig. I was shocked when I found he was gay, because the woman-hating bile he spews is pretty unbelievable. When I read that cop out of basically, all men watch porn. Deal with it or enjoy being alone with your cats (how original of him) I wanted to scream. He has done ONE redeeming thing though, and that is to call out a douchebag rape apologist who dumped his girlfriend for "cheating" on him. She passed out a party and some guy found her sprawled in the bathroom unconscious and raped her. The boyfriend blamed her for the whole incident (why were you even drinking? You must have wanted it type stuff) and kicked her out of her own home, after being raped. Dan Savage almost redeemed himself when he ripped the douche to absolute shreds (some of the most anger I've heard in the popular media). It was actually pretty cool to bring that type of rape scenario to public attention and call it what it was. Most media would blame the woman. So his one redeeming quality is his stance on rape. But yeah, his stuff on anal sex (just do it bitches), porn (just put up with it bitches) and generally being treated badly (deal with it bitches) is absurdly unfuriating.
ReplyDeleteI'm a radical feminist woman, and disabled, and a bisexual, and I watch/read porn all by myself without a man's help, permission or assistance.
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